Hornet is the world’s premier gay social network, specially designed for gay, bi and transgender men to spark meaningful connections. Our mission is to empower gay men to come out and join in the fun and fabulous of the gay community.
We want to lessen the risk of violence, alleviate the discomfort of meeting people solely through old and sometimes sketchy methods, and help users to easily find people they share interests with. We encourage you to make friends, learn about the LGBT community (in your city and around the world), and even discover more about yourself – regardless of your closet status.
Sadly, being gay can be illegal or at least very dangerous in some parts of the world. In these places, Hornet may be the only source of community where one can turn to, and we strive to make it a safe space for everyone.
It’s due to this situation that we came up with our safety tips, which you can review here:
- Fact-check. Ask for multiple social media accounts to verify someone. Also, be sure to ask for more than one photo.
- Be smart. If you end up connecting on other social sites like Facebook or Instagram, check how many friends or followers they have, how many photos they have posted, and how long since the last one was published. If the account only shows modeling photos, that’s a big sign that they may not be genuine.
- Verify further. Get to know them slowly and over time. Relate the pictures to discussed changes, life events, sporting events, anything that gives you a sense of trust with the information you see, and the information that you have received from them.
- Find out if they’re real as soon as possible (video call). You can meet them online using a video messaging service like Facetime, Skype, Zoom, WhatsApp even Facebook Messenger.
- If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. If you feel like you’re talking to your dream person but your guards are up and it feels too good, then slow down, ask questions, and get to know them. If they’re defensive to this, that isn’t a good sign.
- Is he already in love? If he immediately starts declaring they’re the love of your life when you are not even sure who they are, be mindful.
- You don’t have to say yes. You can say no without being rude; safety comes first. Don’t be afraid that it will offend someone who is pursuing you beyond your comfort levels. No means no.
- Tell your friends about the online relationship. Share details about who you’re talking to and when.
- Check your gut. If your body is telling you to be cautious, try to figure out why. Find answers to what’s making you uncomfortable BEFORE the meeting.
- Get their real name BEFORE the meeting.
- Use Find Friends and BSafe. Share your location with your best friend, check-in after your fantastic date, and even make plans to spill all the details later.
- Be sure that you both agree about meetup expectations.
- If you are in a country where it is illegal to be gay, or you could face persecution from family members, then be careful about sharing a face photo in your public photos. Keep them for your private photos. There have been cases of people looking at gay apps to find gay people.
- Meet them someplace public and safe.
- Prepare yourself to say no, just in case you have to.
- Hide your valuables and try not to bring them on first dates.
- Don’t get drunk and think twice about drugs, especially on first meetings.
- If you do go to someone’s place, and food or drinks are offered, please accept food or beverages with COMPLETE CAUTION. It is okay to say no.
If you are in any way worried or suspicious about someone on Hornet, we are here to help. Simply report the profile inside the app. Also, you can always email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
If you experience an immediate threat or attack, contact your local law enforcement straightaway - it is better to be safe.
Notes for Law Enforcement
LGBT people, at times, have a negative history with law enforcement.
Many states don’t have adequate hate crime laws to protect the LGBTQ+ community.
However, LGBTQ+ people are vulnerable to attacks, and in the cases where LGBTQ+ people are endangered, there are some steps police can do, to better their relationships with the LGBTQ+ community:
- If there is a new threat to a region such as violent crime or even a serial killer, alert the community to that threat by contacting social apps
- Let the social apps know what specific resources a law enforcement team may have for LGBTQ+ such as an LGBTQ+ liaison officer
Social apps should have the same goals as police, to keep the LGBTQ+ community safe.
If you work in law enforcement and want to contact Hornet, you can reach us at email@example.com
Important: If you live in an area where it is illegal to be gay, please check out our specific safety tips: How to be safe in Egypt?
If you cannot find a solution in our FAQ, please write to us at firstname.lastname@example.org. It is important that you include your Account ID so that we can trace your account. Your Account ID is located on your profile, right under your name, and begins with the “@” symbol.