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Teen Vogue just published a guide to anal sex, and the internet is losing their shit over it.
Sex educator Gigi Engel’s essay is informative and it lets Teen Vogue readers know how to do it the right way.
“Obviously there is a lot of stuff on the Internet about anal (we don’t suggest you Google it), but most of what you’ll find is either porn or advice for experienced sexual persons looking to try something new,” Engel writes.
She asks: “What about the teenagers? What about the LGBTQ young people who need to know about this for their sexual health?”
Next, Engel takes readers on a step-by-step anal 101 for beginners. She goes through the basics, and explains that you need to to start slow, how important lube is and that there will be poop.
“I want to personally assure you that that you will not poop on anyone during anal sex. Sure, there are horror stories, but aren’t there always?”
“That being said, yes, you will come in contact with some fecal matter. You are entering a butthole. It is where poop comes out. Expecting to do anal play and see zero poop isn’t particularly realistic. It’s NOT a big deal. Everyone poops. Everyone has a butt.” (Maybe she needs to read this.)
Considering their target audience is teenagers, did Teen Vogue overstep their boundaries? Or is a piece like this needed to inform our youth about the ins and outs of anal sex, just like the ins and outs of vaginal sex, too?
Let the outrage begin!
As we mentioned before, people aren’t happy about the poop piece.
Christian site The Stream published “The Predator in the Fashion Magazine: Teen Vogue Coaches Teenagers in Sodomy.”
“Wake up, Moms and Dads!” the article begins. “A magazine produced for your teenage daughters is giving them explicit instructions on how to be sodomized.”
“It is teaching them to be used by a guy, in a very dangerous way, for his pleasure and satisfaction. It is giving the clear message to every teenage boy that it’s perfectly acceptable to sodomize a girl, to use her, even physically hurt her for the sake of an orgasm.”
And, of course, there is a dash of homophobia thrown in the article for good measure. ”It is glorifying as good, normal and healthy, the harmful practice of homosexual sex.”
YouTuber Wild Smile published a video denouncing the magazine for the article too.
The caption reads: “Teen Vogue is a publication directed toward young girls. This is a bit creepy to push on teenagers, if I am being honest.”
A writer at the Independent also wasn’t so pleased with the piece either:
“Our responsibility as adult women influencing the next generation is to raise them up to be confident in their self-worth, and fighting against a culture that seeks to define them by their sexuality and what they can do for men,” writes female author J.J. Barnes. “Regardless of whether they consider their vulva to be part of their woman’s body, their clitoris exists, and they are more than just a hole for a penis.”
She continues: “Teen Vogue’s target audience is not non-prostate owners seeking to provide sexual satisfaction to men through their anus. Teen Vogue’s target audience is teenage girls, most under the legal age of consent, who are deserving of adult women to teach them to value themselves for who they are, not by what they are in relation to men.”
The guide is for more than just girls.
However, Teen Vogue’s audience is not just teenage girls. It includes gay boys, trans men, trans girls, 20-something gay men, 30-something-year-old women and older… you get the idea. And all of us can benefit from a guide like this being online.
Sexual health is important, and since sexual health in high school so rarely covers anal sex, Teen Vogue’s article is needed. As gay men, think if we had something in high school other than Queer as Folk DVDs to teach us in the ins and outs of anal. We may have been a bit better informed and less scared of the sexual act.
Honestly, there are a few things we learned ourselves in the article. Knowledge is power, even if that power involves some poop.