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When Korean drag queen Kim Chi performed her original song “Fat, Fem and Asian” on the Season 8 finale of RuPaul’s Drag Race, she was referencing a exclusionary statement that pops-up a lot on personal sites and hook-up apps: “no fats, fems or Asians.”
It’s depressingly common, but, as we’ve explained before, many people have unwittingly had their sexual preferences shaped by a long history of racist U.S. laws that emasculated Asian men. This, along with unflattering pop-culture depictions of Asian guys as over-sexed, heavily accented stereotypes, have made people biased against Asians as a whole.
But when someone says “No Asians,” they’re not only exposing themselves as close-minded — imagine all the fun and interesting Asian men they’ll never meet — but they’re also delivering a blow to Asian people’s self-esteem, reinforcing the idea that Asian guys just aren’t sexually attractive, which is ridiculous.
To “challenge the negative stereotypes existing out there about Asian men and to also embrace and appreciate beautiful Asian men around the world,” a man named Hoon Bae from Los Angeles, California has started an Instagram account entitled “WolfeGuys” which features black-and-white photos of sexy Asian men.
Bae’s project seems like a cross between a male physique pictorial and a men’s fashion magazine. It has steamy photos of shirtless, muscular Asian dudes, but also has artistic photographs of handsome, stylishly clothed men. Together, they present an intimate and erotically-charged view of Asian men we don’t often see in gay media.
Personally, we’d love to see an Instagram or Tumblr dedicated to fat, femme Asian guys; we’ve met some really attractive, charming ones in our days. Sharing them with the larger world could help change minds to a point where personal profiles start proclaiming, “Yes fats, fems and Asians.”