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This New Study Lists 50 Things That Will Make You a ‘Modern Gentleman’

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A new British study shines a light on what it takes to be a modern gentleman.

The list of 50 positive attributes covers everything from dinner table etiquette and dressing well to avoiding gossip and knowing bushcraft. (That’s related to camping, by the way, not pubic hair.)

Holding a door open for others, being a good listener and putting your phone away at the dinner table will win you points in the 21st century, along with keeping good personal hygiene and arriving on time for social events and meetings.

The study was commissioned by Moss Bros., the men’s tailoring experts, as part of a campaign to get guys to dress smarter.

Sotos Georgalli, Brand and Creative Director at Moss Bros., weighs in: “It comes as little surprise that over a third of British men feel most professional and powerful in a tailored suit, while almost half feel their smartest when dressed in their best.”

For the sake of argument, if we’re going to look at the stereotypical gay man, some of these 50 traits might be hard to find. These, for example:

  • – Puts his phone away at the dinner table
  • – Never gets too drunk
  • – Avoids gossip and gossiping
  • – Steps in to resolve disputes
  • – Refrains from social media over-use

We spoke to Georgalli in London when we noticed that a number of these traits of a “modern gentleman” seem to be the opposite of traits of modern gay men. We asked him, “Are modern gay men ungentlemanly?”

“I don’t agree,” he says. “I think we have all fallen victim to having a lack of some of those traits, irrespective of sexual orientation. Something like not putting a phone away when at the dinner table — we’re all guilty of it at times. We just need to unlearn these new behaviors.”

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Here’s the full list of 50 behaviors that make the modern gentleman:

  1. Holds the door open for others
  2. Listens when other people speak
  3. Puts his phone away at the dinner table
  4. Keeps good personal hygiene
  5. Arrives punctually to social events and meetings
  6. Keeps a tidy home
  7. Lends his jacket to his partner on a cold night
  8. Knows when to admit he is wrong
  9. Polishes his shoes
  10. Keeps himself in shape
  11. Greets guests at the door
  12. Tells the truth, even in difficult circumstances
  13. Knows when to ask for help
  14. Good at remembering names and faces
  15. Up to date on current events
  16. Never gets too drunk
  17. Walks on the road-side of the pavement
  18. Avoids gossip and gossiping
  19. Keeps a tidy wardrobe
  20. Wears a watch
  21. Generous in the bedroom
  22. Steps in to resolve disputes
  23. Refrains from social media over-use
  24. Tells witty anecdotes
  25. Tech savvy, but not overly so
  26. Brings his partner breakfast in bed
  27. Gives money to charity
  28. Knows how to set a table
  29. Knows how to change a tire
  30. Can entertain your children
  31. Has opinions on the political landscape
  32. Knows how to give a toast at dinner
  33. Cooks a few signature dishes
  34. Knows how to host a mean BBQ
  35. Knows how to put up a shelf
  36. Good music taste
  37. Knows how to carve at the dinner table
  38. Knows how to tie a bow tie
  39. Has never taken a selfie
  40. Knows how to flirt
  41. Handwrites letters
  42. Reads a broadsheet newspaper
  43. Knows their whisky
  44. Reads the literary greats
  45. Knows a second language
  46. Has a signature drink
  47. Knows about flowers
  48. Knows the offside rule
  49. Knows how to make a range of alcoholic drinks
  50. Knows how to camp/bushcraft

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So, how do you fare? Are you a modern gentleman?