U.S. passport, hilary clinton, secretary of state, parent 1

Passports Backlash! Mother/Father to Remain

U.S. passport, hilary clinton, secretary of state, parent 1
id=”attachment_859″ Who’s Your Daddy or Parent 2?

We’re not quite sure how to feel about this. Our gay blog reported this weekend that U.S. passports were eliminating gender specific language in the parent information section, now that there are an estimated 100,000 children in the country being raised by same-sex parents. The change, pioneered by Secretary of State Hillary Clinton, was to have replaced the words “Father” and “Mother” with the admittedly vague, but more inclusive “Parent 1” and “Parent 2”.

It’s looking now like the change is stuck on third base. After conservative backlash about the proposed change which was to take effect February 1, Clinton has ordered the language be changed yet again to “Mother or Parent 1” and “Father or Parent 2”. Hmm.

To us, this is looking like a compromise that doesn’t actually make sense for one side. While on one hand it is fantastic that the federal government is recognizing that not all children have two parents of opposite gender in this modern world, it demeans that child’s parents to call his or her second father “Mother or Parent 1”, or to call his or her second mother “Father or Parent 2”. This is hardly an accurate depiction of the families the move was meant to better portray.

It smells to us like this has spilled blood in the water, and the federal government will have some major problems on it’s hands thanks to this compromise in the not too distant future. The mere fact they are making a change at all is an acknowledgment that these differences exist in today’s families. When inevitably an American citizen with same sex parents sues the government for discriminating against them, which the government is literally acknowledging that it is, the defense is going to have a tough case on it’s hands.

You just can’t do equality halfway. The move to genderless parental information that so many of you applauded (200+ likes on the article posted to our Facebook page within an hour) will eventually be the standard. Anything in between is simply a placating limbo to both sides of the debate, and won’t stand for long.

Are you disappointed to see the federal government back down on this?

  • karen lindsey

    it’s wonderfully clunky! but there is something slightly subversive about it. if the ‘father’ can be a woman or the ‘mother’ a man, by implication at least, that’s a step in the direction of gender shading that i like.

    and either way it continues to be an affront to single parents of whatever gender or persuasion, birth parent or adoptive parent.

  • Michelle Rizzo

    I had not even heard this and so I am glad to have come across this. It is disgusting. Who would have thought that in this day and age people would still have to fight so hard for equal rights! Parent 1 and Parent 2 makes perfect sense to me! You can’t tell me none of these Right Wing Whack Jobs know ANY same-sex couples with children!

  • Linda James

    I hadn’t thought of what the change meant, but I personally agree that it does demean these parents after reading this. In my opinion it makes these parent’s job raising their children harder still to have to explain to them why the powers that be in this country don’t treat them fairly simply because of who they are. I am disappointed to see the federal government back down on the change to the more inclusive “Parent 1 and Parent 2”. “Parent 1 and Parent 2” seems to be the fair language and the fair thing to do, eliminating gender specific language and celebrating families.

  • let’s say it’s 2 gay dads… so one of them will need to be identified as “Mother or Parent 1″… ick… it just smacks of the standard, offensive “so which one of you is the girl/wife/plays-the-woman”
    (while this can be fun gender-norm/heterosexism-defying fun amongst those of us IN the community, *gurl*, it just feels yucky to have this imposed by a larger ‘system’). Parent 1/Parent2 made much more sense – too bad it was too scary/offensive/whatever

  • howdyrich

    let’s say it’s 2 gay dads… so one of them will need to be identified as “Mother or Parent 1″… ick… it just smacks of the standard, offensive “so which one of you is the girl/wife/plays-the-woman”
    (while this can be fun gender-norm/heterosexism-defying fun amongst those of us IN the community, *gurl*, it just feels yucky to have this imposed by a larger ‘system’). Parent 1/Parent2 made much more sense – too bad it was too scary/offensive/whatever

  • Anonymous

    What a waste of time, we all know regardless of who the parents are there is more to it than parent 1 or parent 2. What is worng with the truth list all sperm donars, seragate egg downers, adopted parents blood parents and move on. I’m gay but I don’t buy the cover up either way facts are facts and we need to realize that.

  • Anonymous

    What a waste of time, we all know regardless of who the parents are there is more to it than parent 1 or parent 2. What is worng with the truth list all sperm donars, seragate egg downers, adopted parents blood parents and move on. I’m gay but I don’t buy the cover up either way facts are facts and we need to realize that.

  • Guest

    What a waste of time, we all know regardless of who the parents are there is more to it than parent 1 or parent 2. What is worng with the truth list all sperm donars, seragate egg downers, adopted parents blood parents and move on. I’m gay but I don’t buy the cover up either way facts are facts and we need to realize that.

  • Duetts

    What a waste of time, we all know regardless of who the parents are there is more to it than parent 1 or parent 2. What is worng with the truth list all sperm donars, seragate egg downers, adopted parents blood parents and move on. I’m gay but I don’t buy the cover up either way facts are facts and we need to realize that.

  • hmm…so, what if i want to put my mother’s name under parent two, and my father’s name under parent one? is my mother now my father and my father now my mother?

  • kiden

    hmm…so, what if i want to put my mother’s name under parent two, and my father’s name under parent one? is my mother now my father and my father now my mother?