Attention all bachelorette parties, aspiring prom queens and brides-to-be: Legendary drag mother RuPaul is not here for your foolishness. She is not your accessory, your clown or your make-up artist. If you ever see her or her queens perform, they want your respect and they sure as hell want your money.
In her recent interview with dinnerpartydownload.org, a listener asked RuPaul, “What are your thoughts on bachelorette party etiquette at drag shows/gay bars?”
RuPaul instantly pulled out a cup of steaming hot tea and said, “You better check yourself before you wreck yourself.” It only got better from there:
You know, this is an important thing: People who live in the mainstream and the status quo think that everyone else is there to serve them.
So I’m a brown-skinned gay man. You know, I do drag. Early on, I learned that I could do it well and make money. So people automatically ask me about beauty tips. And I get kids who write me and say, “I wish you could do my makeup for my prom?” Or, “I wish you could do my makeup for my wedding?” I’m like, “Bitch, I’m not a makeup artist. I’m an enter-taint-er! OK?”
But people don’t know how to place me in their consciousness. They think “Oh, you must be here to make me look good. That’s what gay guys are, right? You’re an accessory for my straight life.” Just because your limited view is that everyone’s there to serve you and that you’re the only person in the world. It doesn’t work that way.
Co-interviewer Brendan Francis Newnam responded, “But on the one hand, a bachelorette party going to a gay bar, in a way, could expand their consciousness.” To which Ru replied:
But if they’re going as a group of girls, traditionally — not always, but traditionally — they’re going as a group of girls as a way of saying “Oh, let’s go together, let’s go together!” So that they don’t really have to go outside of their wheelhouse. They’re tourists. It’s not really saying, “You’re fierce, and I’m going to respect you, you queen, for who you are.” It’s like they’re there as a party clown.
The other interviewer, Rico Gagliano, asked, “How do you think they should express their appreciation in a more respectful way do you think?” And Ru answered, “Oh, I can tell you in one word: cash. Cash.”
So let it be known: Do not come at RuPaul asking for makeup tips, and if you attend a drag show with your straight pals, have them bring singles and make it rain. Anything less is disrespectful.