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A Frantic Mom Didn’t Know How to Respond to Her Son Coming Out, So She Called a Gay Bar

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A bartender at a gay bar got an interesting phone call when the frantic mother of a newly out teenager called asking for some parental advice. Kara Coley tends bar at Sipps in Gulfport, Mississippi. On Friday night, she received a call from a mom whose son just came out to her. She posted the exchange on her Facebook.

She wrote:

So I got the most random phone call at the bar tonight! 

Me: Good evening Thank you for calling Sipps!
Lady on phone: Is this a gay bar?
Me: Well we are a everybody bar but yes mostly gay.
Lady: Can I ask you a?
Me: Sure
Lady: Are you gay?
Me: YES MA’AM
Lady: What was the one thing you wanted from your parents when you came out?
Me: Umm…
Lady: My son just came out to me and I don’t want to say anything that may mess him up in the head.
Me: Well, I think that you should just make sure he knows that you love and accept, wait do you accept it?
Lady: Well, umm yes if that’s what he wants.
Me: You should definitely let him know that you love and accept him! I think everything will be OK from there!
Lady: Okay. Well thank you.
Me: You are very welcome and good luck!

17 years of bartending in gay bars on the coast! That’s definitely a first for me!

kara coley
Kara Coley

We’re loving this resourceful Mom and Coley’s helpful response. Coley’s endearing Facebook post about the exchange has more than 90 comments and 100 shares as of press time.

One commenter wrote: “How resourceful of this mother and what a wonderful response from you. Warms my heart to read this exchange.”

Another added: “It’s the little things like a random call for advice that can make a huge impact! Love your answer and love the moms sincerity and her being mindful about her sons feelings.”