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The Fed Gov’t Recognizes Their Marriage, But South Dakota Is All, “Nuh uh!”

 

 

 

 

 

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id=”attachment_1776″ just married! But not in SD’s eyes.

 

 

I know my calculus. It says U+Me=Us. And it also says the federal government trumps state governments. So why is South Dakota refusing to allow a married, lesbian woman to change her name when the federal government has already issued her a new social security card reflecting her married status and name?

A little thing called a constitutional amendment banning recognition of same-sex marriages performed in other states. These so-called “states rights” laws are popping up all over the country, and to be honest, all they are doing is succeeding in forcing the federal government to speed up it’s deployment of full marriage equality laws.

When a state like South Dakota refuses to consider a person’s social security card – pretty much the ace of spades in terms of identification – as valid I.D., the constitutional amendment prohibiting the state from recognizing that person’s marriage is seen for what it is – state sanctioned discrimination. Gay and lesbian couples are put through rings of fire in order to do something as simple as change their last name on their driver’s license – something an hour at the DMV accomplishes for heterosexual couples. With this instance in SD, we are looking the denial of rights outlined by the federal government right in the eye.

Argus Leader reports:

Amy Stabe of North Sioux City said she didn’t read the fine print before handing her Iowa marriage certificate to a department employee in Vermillion. “She basically threw the certificate back in my face like it was a piece of garbage and said ‘this is no good,’ ” Stabe said. “At first I thought she thought it was fraudulent.”

Stabe pressed her case, showing the employee a federally issued Social Security card with her new name on it. “She said, ‘that’s no good, either,’ ” Stabe said.

“I was shocked,” she said. “I wasn’t applying for benefits, I was just trying to get my name changed.”

Now, Stabe’s Social Security card and credit cards list her name as “Amy Stabe,” but her license still reads “Amy Muston.” Her mail is addressed to Amy Stabe, too.

She said she’s had difficulty applying for a car loan and has to bring extra identification when using her credit card. She’s also concerned about her ability to board a commercial flight with a license that doesn’t match her Social Security card.

Which brings us to the illegal – in any state – violation of equal protection laws. Also worth noting, it’s been suggested to Ms. Stabe that she would be better off leaving the state. Let’s go over that again, Gays and lesbians in South Dakota are being told to leave the state in order to be treated fairly. That pretty much sums it all up with a nice bow on top.

With states like South Dakota behaving like absolute bigots and brats, the federal government will have no choice but to protect it’s LGBT citizens since many states are persecuting the hell out of them. I promise ridiculous stories like this one are actually a good thing for gay rights.

Still, are you disappointed to see South Dakota treating it’s citizens in such an obnoxious manner?

Via Argus Leader

  • Anonymous

    Thats South Dakota for you. Lived here since i was two. Lol when it comes to gay rights, we are probably one for the most ass backwards states in the country.

  • joegeyer

    Thats South Dakota for you. Lived here since i was two. Lol when it comes to gay rights, we are probably one for the most ass backwards states in the country.

  • Anonymous

    Yes, it is hard for me to be going through this right now…. hopefully it will all turn out in my favor…. 🙂

    Amy Stabe

  • astabe

    Yes, it is hard for me to be going through this right now…. hopefully it will all turn out in my favor…. 🙂

    Amy Stabe

  • Anonymous

    I’m really overwhelmed by all of the attention this has gotten my battle began November 1st and hopefully it will turn out in our favor… thanks for your support

    Amy Stabe

  • astabe

    I’m really overwhelmed by all of the attention this has gotten my battle began November 1st and hopefully it will turn out in our favor… thanks for your support

    Amy Stabe

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  • Anonymous

    Thank You 🙂 Ive seen many many many ariticle written on it and only commented on one besides yours. I saw that I made the ADVOCATE and USA TODAY, in which I have commented on none of those. Also a few article written in other countries about it. It went from me complaining about it at work to my co-workers to this. LoL. I made international news in like 8 hours or less. It was insane. There is another couple involved as well and we keep in close contact. Will let you all know if it is granted or not, I hope it is! -Amy Stabe

  • astabe

    Thank You 🙂 Ive seen many many many ariticle written on it and only commented on one besides yours. I saw that I made the ADVOCATE and USA TODAY, in which I have commented on none of those. Also a few article written in other countries about it. It went from me complaining about it at work to my co-workers to this. LoL. I made international news in like 8 hours or less. It was insane. There is another couple involved as well and we keep in close contact. Will let you all know if it is granted or not, I hope it is! -Amy Stabe

  • Amy, I’m curious how you got Social Security to recognize the name change. With DOMA in effect, the Federal government theoretically wouldn’t have recognized your marriage as a basis for an automatic name change any more than South Dakota is willing to.

  • Heroic Hal

    Amy, I’m curious how you got Social Security to recognize the name change. With DOMA in effect, the Federal government theoretically wouldn’t have recognized your marriage as a basis for an automatic name change any more than South Dakota is willing to.

  • Anonymous

    It was quite easy, I walked into the social security administration office and
    handed over my marriage certificate… They knew I was in a same sex marriage I
    told them I was. Every person I know has no problem changing their name on the
    socail security card I think because the SSA has to observe the court document
    from the Iowa court house perhaps? But every person I have talked to has had no
    problem getting it changed on a federal level, it’s at the state level when it
    starts to get sticky.

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  • astabe

    It was quite easy, I walked into the social security administration office and
    handed over my marriage certificate… They knew I was in a same sex marriage I
    told them I was. Every person I know has no problem changing their name on the
    socail security card I think because the SSA has to observe the court document
    from the Iowa court house perhaps? But every person I have talked to has had no
    problem getting it changed on a federal level, it’s at the state level when it
    starts to get sticky.

    ________________________________

  • Ok, I wanna state first that I am on the Stabes’ side and what happened to Amy sucks. But the problem lies more with the federal law DOMA than it does with the South Dakota constitution. While certain federal agencies have some loopholes that they can work with (such as Social Security issuing a new name and number), for the large part DOMA blocks the important legal aspects of marriage, even if a state allows marriage. The largest part (in my opinion) is that DOMA allows the states to refuse to recognize a marriage from another state. This is an aspect that they have been fighting against in court specifically, because if that part of the bill were removed then states like SD would have to recognize the marriage even if marriages couldn’t be performed in the state.

  • P.S. South Dakota native here. I want marriage equality, but I’ll stand up for my state where it counts. This issue is much larger than just SD’s laws. My state has potential, the people just need guidance and example. Fellow gay Dakotans need to band together, come out, and support one another. In the larger cities and states things improve because their communities are visible and vocal. Stand up SD.

  • T Joseph Sterzinger

    Ok, I wanna state first that I am on the Stabes’ side and what happened to Amy sucks. But the problem lies more with the federal law DOMA than it does with the South Dakota constitution. While certain federal agencies have some loopholes that they can work with (such as Social Security issuing a new name and number), for the large part DOMA blocks the important legal aspects of marriage, even if a state allows marriage. The largest part (in my opinion) is that DOMA allows the states to refuse to recognize a marriage from another state. This is an aspect that they have been fighting against in court specifically, because if that part of the bill were removed then states like SD would have to recognize the marriage even if marriages couldn’t be performed in the state.

  • T Joseph Sterzinger

    P.S. South Dakota native here. I want marriage equality, but I’ll stand up for my state where it counts. This issue is much larger than just SD’s laws. My state has potential, the people just need guidance and example. Fellow gay Dakotans need to band together, come out, and support one another. In the larger cities and states things improve because their communities are visible and vocal. Stand up SD.